Friday, June 3, 2011

Opinions Stinks and Other Facts of Life

Opinions are like assholes, everybody has one, and it stinks. This saying is extremely true not only at work or even just in normal family life. I have come to realise that everyone can have a slightly different opinion about something even when presented with exactly the same facts. This happens very often in my workplace. Same information, but sometimes, very differing views.

And I am pleasantly surprised to note that opinions also vary even at home. Just today my wife was recounting an encounter with a woman who wanted to have a 2nd child and intended to put her 1st child in full day childcare once the 2nd child came along. My wife thought that this was not right as that defeated the whole point of having a 2nd one. And she sort of wanted me to agree with her on this matter.

Instead, I told her that different people have different viewpoints about the same matter. What seems SO WRONG to her might actually seem like the logical and correct thing to do. And the problem with it is that both parties will never be able to accept the viewpoints of the other party wholeheartedly. And that is where all differences arise from. - the lack of an absolute truth, or compass, to guide us on what is the correct behaviour or what should be relegated and stated as merely a lifestyle preference.

My wife berated me when she heard me say this. She said: "But don't you think it is wrong??"

When I replied the same answer about different people having different viewpoints about the same matter and both thinking that they are absolutely right, she got even angrier and said that it was not right to have no opinions about a matter and to simply be like a blank sheet of paper that accepts both sides of the argument without making a stand.

I would like to think that I am able to hold two opposing thoughts in my head and still function like a normal human being.

Other Facts of Life

Life isn't fair. The sooner you realise it, the better. I have always grown up thinking that life was fair and got angry whenever I saw certain unfairness in life. Now I have come to accept it and realise that life isn't fair. It isn't no matter how much you want it to be.


  1. Hi,
    I think i have said it in your blog before but i can't resist to share with you one more time this great prayer of a great christian. Please be open minded, because this prayer in actual facts apply to everyone of us regardless of whatever you believe in or nothing.

    (In fact, this prayer is one of my "anchors" as i live this unpredictable life on earth.)
    And maybe, if you really feel and touch by this prayer, you will understand why everyone has his/her own opinion; including you.
    Enjoy this prayer:-

    "No one reacts to things as they are, but to one's own mental images; Keep me aware that it is not what happens to me in life that matters, but rather how i react to what happens."

    The irony of life is though we are the same in many ways we all need to be different in one way or another for this world to exist and to progress. Just imagine everyone of us is the same; then don't we all look like man-made robots?

  2. Hi Temperament,

    Thanks for sharing this insightful prayer. Amen!


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